The large circle represents our relative life experiences. Mine is larger because I am older and have experienced a lot in my lifetime. The blue circle represents a negative event. Assume we both experienced that event, whatever the nature. Notice that the event circle is the same size for each of us, but also notice what percentage of the area it occupies in our relative life experiences circle. It seems much larger to you because it is a bigger chunk of your experience. I am not diminishing the important of that event. I just have a different perspective on it. I am trying to tell you that something that hurts so bad to you now and seems like it always will in the future, will one day be part of your past and not as significant as it seems now. I know it is hard to believe, but it is true.