socialchildren: What do you think is the best way to deal with the increasing number of under 13s using social networks like Facebook?
Honestly, this is going to be some soapboxing from a dude with no kids, BUT:
More active parenting.
There are too many parents out there who come home and veg out in front of the TV, who lose themselves in the glow of the computer monitor, and who can’t make it through dinner without texting or checking email on their Blackberries. If kids under 13 are joining and using Facebook (which is against Facebook’s Terms of Service, by the way), I feel it’s largely because their online time is not being monitored as much as it should be. In my mind, children under the age of 13 (and even a bit older):
…should not be online more than an hour each day. Send them outside. Force them to socialize with other kids their age. Let them learn that meaningful relationships almost always begin in the real world instead of online.
…should never be able to access the Internet from the privacy of their bedroom. You’re the parent. It’s your right and responsibility to know. If they have an iPod Touch or laptop, it does not go into their room. Any access they have to the Internet needs to occur in a “public” area of your home.
…should learn positive online habits if you choose to let them into a social network. Here are five safe social networks for children (and they are children).
…should, at all times, and without exception, never have any account that their parents do not have the password to. Ever. Period. End of story. Foot = Down.
…should have a good example. If you’re on the computer all night, ignoring the world, you are socializing them to believe that’s the norm. That meaningful interactions only occur online. If you do that, STOP IT.
This is not one of those things that can be pushed off onto teachers. They’ve already had enough pushed off on them. As parents you have the unique privilege of raising a child, which involves setting boundaries and letting them know what is and isn’t acceptable behavior. I’m not saying it’s easy. It’s probably the hardest job in the world (according to what I’ve read on Wikipedia). And it’s not like technology has made things simpler. But what isn’t complicated is setting reasonable boundaries, and establishing easy rules for online access with your children.
This isn’t an indictment against all parents. There are plenty of active parents out there. But there are plenty who haven’t learned to responsibly handle technology themselves. How can I expect those people to set a good example for their miniature people? Ultimately, this one will have to be on mom and pop. Or mom and mom. Or pop and pop. Or just mom. Or just pop.
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